The stepdad decided it was now or never. He stood up and said he would like to make a toast. He began his speech with the following words, “It has been my great pleasure to be a part of this family for the past ten years. At this point in my life I feel I owe a debt of gratitude to bride and groom, because they have opened my eyes to something very important.”
Everyone at the table was smiling. “They have showed me that my position in this family is not what I once thought it was.” He continued as people began to look uncomfortable. “Though I once thought of myself as the patriarch or godfather of the family, commanding great respect and sought out for help in times of need, it seems instead that I hold the position of an ATM, good for a stream of money, but not much else.”
“As I have been replaced as host, both on the invitations and in the ceremony, I am resigning my financial duties as host to my successor, Real Dad. So cheers to the happy couple and the path they have chosen,” he announced to everyone present.
While the room went completely silent, the stepdad finished his drink and kindly told everyone, “You all can let yourselves out.”
The man transferred his money from the joint account and notified all the wedding vendors to cancel their services and have his deposits refunded.
His girlfriend called him selfish, his stepdaughter threw several temper tantrums. The wedding planner was brought in to try to bring him to his senses and make him realize what he was doing. Instead, he leafed through the wedding book and saw all the father-daughter dances were songs that were important to the “real” dad. The menu included food he was allergic to. He didn’t feel guilty or bad after seeing this as he understood his role. “All I’ve heard is how it’s the bride’s family that should pay, so, let it be the bride’s family then, aka, not me,” he reasons.