Recently, Joey Feek, died after a long battle with cancer. The popular country singer, leaves behind a loving husband, Rory, and their two-year-old daughter, Indiana.
Her favorite holiday was always Easter because she loved the story of rebirth and resurrection. Rory spent the day thinking about his wife and how closely her story relates to the bible.
“There’s a Bible verse that I have been thinking a lot about lately. John 3:30. It says, ‘He must become greater; I must become less.’ I think of that verse today because of Indiana. And because of Joey.”
Several weeks after Joey had passed, her daughter Indiana hadn’t asked for her mother once since her death. This is due to the fact that Joey purposefully distanced herself before she passed.
“Indy has not asked for her mama. Not one single time since Joey’s been gone. It’s almost as if she hasn’t noticed that she’s not here. And that is so sad… and oh, so wonderful – all at the same time.
When we first got to Indiana in late October, Joey was Indy’s whole world. Everyone else was… well, just everyone else. Including me. She loved her mama so much and all she wanted was to be with her, beside her or in-sight of her. But in early November, when Joey started to realize that there was a good chance that she might not beat her battle with cancer, she made a decision… ‘He must become greater and I must become less.’
And she started going against everything in her being that told her ‘time was short’ so [things like] holding her baby even tighter. and longer. and more. [but] instead – she handed the baby to me, and sat alone in a bed and watched and listened as my relationship with Indy grew… and hers lessened.
I still remember the day, a few weeks later, when I was sitting on the couch near Joey’s bed and Indy was playing on the floor at my feet and Joey looked over at me and said, ‘she needs you now.’ I looked at Joey and saw the look on her face and knew what she meant, and I wanted to cry. But she just smiled and said, ‘…it’s best this way honey.’
Who does that? Who has that kind of strength and character? Not me, that’s for sure. I would’ve taken the low, easy road. the one that served me more. I would’ve tried to make the ties with our baby stronger and her love for me deeper so that she wouldn’t forget me… and in the end, probably left our baby wrecked with grief over the loss of the one person she loved and needed most. But not Joey. She let Indy fall more in love with me… and less in love with her. She carried the pain on her own shoulders, to try to keep it off of mine. And even more so, off of Indy’s.
Don’t get me wrong, there were still lots of times in those last few months that I put Indy in her mama’s lap and they spent time together, loving and enjoying each other. But it was never the same. Indiana loved her mama… but she wanted me. She needed me.
Thank you Joey.”
His wife’s sacrifice for the greater good of the family after her death is one of the most selfless things she could’ve ever done.